When Grant was in the second grade, he would come home talking about his friend, Sean Michael. He would ask me weekly if Sean Michael could come over to play. Not being the biggest fan of playdates, I would say some along the lines of “Sure. One of these days I’ll call his mom and set it up.” And then another week or month would go by. Eventually Grant pretty much stopped asking. That spring, we got a note home from the school saying that the class would not be celebrating Mother’s Day since a mom of one of the students had died recently. (You know where this is going right?) I casually asked Grant if he might know whose mom it was. He said he didn’t. A few days later he came home and announced that he knew whose it was. Sean Michael’s. I asked him how he could be sure, and he said that at school that day he told Sean Michael that I needed his mom’s phone number to set up a playdate. Sean told him he couldn’t give it to him because his mom was dead. She died from breast cancer the August before second grade. I may never NOT feel guilty about the many times I could have had him over that I just didn’t bother. All those times he probably would have benefitted from doing something fun. He spent lots of time with us that summer and was such a natural addition to our family. The boys were two peas in a pod.
Sean’s dad relocated to Virginia from Texas with his wife and they moved with Sean about an hour away. That was 7 years ago. Grant and Sean probably talk to each other on the phone most nights of the week. They play video games and computer games together. When there is a break from school or a long weekend, they hatch out a plan to get together. During the summer, they are usually lucky enough to have week long visits.
I will forever be impressed by two young men who have managed to remain best buddies over the years and distance. They are still two peas in a pod. Sometimes we’ll hear a laugh from the basement and won’t be sure who made it. I am very proud of them both and the men they are becoming. People are put into your life for a reason, but you have to be able to recognize that and act on it. In some ways, they are mature beyond their 14 years.
PS Scan on Monday.