Facebook Tells Half the Story

ImageWhen I have a quiet moment, my mind keeps returning to the idea of the how we present ourselves to the outside world.  Facebook tells half the story.  At least for me, that is true.  My Facebook page is full of fun pictures of good times with the kids or of us on holiday.  There is the occasional political jab usually in regards to gun control or an anecdote about work.  I don’t believe I have ever talked about Dave’s cancer on Facebook mostly because my teenagers also have accounts, and it just doesn’t seem appropriate. I have a Twitter account but don’t tweet.  I have Instagram but only use it for my own photo editing.  So many ways to communicate and yet what is really being said?

Even in person we don different masks.  When someone asks how Dave is, I gauge my response depending on who is asking.  If it is someone who seems to genuinely want to hear all the details, I try to honor that.  If it is a casual inquiry, then I put on my “everything is great!” face.  With the kids (my own and my students), naturally different masks go on.  There is the “I am having a crappy day but you will never know it” or the “I am nagging you about homework when secretly I think that homework is a bunch of BS”. Recent events have me wondering how we can see beyond some of these veils.

I am thankful to have a place to take off my mask and reveal the good and the not so good.  Sometimes I wonder if I am being too honest, but mostly I am just grateful that I have this space to reveal the raw emotions that usually get hidden.  I wish everyone had a safe place in which to be 100% themselves so we could know how to take care of each other better.



12 thoughts on “Facebook Tells Half the Story

  1. We are glad you have this corner of the world to share your feelings. You are such a blessing to your family and friends. Our family is here for you even if we don’t say it often enough. XO

  2. Sounds to me that you have it just right. There is no better way to handle a really tough situation. I pray a lot. Ann

  3. Robyn, I am so touched by this particular message of yours. It reminds me of why my Bible Study group feels so free to share honest feelings, worries, fears, anger, etc. I am printing this page and taking it to the group. They know I pray for Dave and his family every week, although they don’t know who you are. But I feel that I must share this with them as a reminder of how important it is to have friends, places, opportunities to just be honest with our feelings and know that those who hear keep confidences and listen with loving hearts. Thank you so much for this special message.

  4. Robyn, I love your honesty and candor when you write on this blog. It helps me know that when I am passing in the street and you say things are great, I can come here for the truth behind the words you said. I hope you know that you can always be honest with me because I want to be there to listen and help if I can.

  5. I’m really glad you have a safe place here. Safe places can be very hard to find. I feel honored that you share your safe place with me. Your family is in my prayers.

  6. Robyn, you are gifted in so many ways…and your words on this blog touch lives. (I also love reading the comments.) The amazing truth is that God knows exactly what’s going on in our hearts and minds. He is our safe refuge, and we need/want to be a safe refuge for you. Continuing to pray for you and your family…. ~ Theresa

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