1. The first text messages and phone calls are the toughest. Ours were full of homesickness and general feelings of discontent. I responded with lots of encouragement and “give it time” type messages. As each day passes, the number of messages will decrease. This lets me know that she is too busy and engaged to text me. Only one “I. hate. this.” text yesterday.
2. To stave off those feelings of missing her too much, I used that energy to purge her room and bathroom. We discussed this before she left, and I had her blessing. I get happy feelings when I pass by her room now. Before I would just quickly close her doors so I didn’t have to look at how disastrous it was!
3. Teach your kid how to order stuff online. I didn’t realize this was a skill in which she was lacking and that she would need. All textbooks are ordered at CNU as there is no bookstore. Billing address is not the same as mailing address and will cause your order to be declined. Also, account number is not your banking account number. No one will ask you for that.
4. Connectedness is both a blessing and a curse. I am glad that Sam can get a hold of me at any time for any reason. But I also think it makes the transition harder when you can text your friends from home only to hear that they are also homesick or even worse they are having a rocking good time and you aren’t! (Not to sound like a grandma but) when I went to school you had no choice but to get out there and meet people. What else were we going to do? Write a letter? Sit at a pay phone?
5. I read a great article about this very topic. Two quotes in particular hit home for me. “The very best thing about your life is a short stage in someone else’s story.” I think this is so true. Her story is just beginning, and I am so excited to see where her life takes her. “Well, 18 years is a window that closed too quickly. But, my son, those days have been the greatest wonder and privilege of my life.” Indeed.
The whole article can be found here –