Joy and Pain, like Sunshine and Rain

(Anyone remember that song?  Trust me, if you start singing it, it will stick with you all day.) 

In glancing over my last few posts, I definitely feel like I have been repping the pain and rain side and not so much the sunshine and joy.  But it is there.  It is always there.  Today it came in the form of this – 



Isn’t that pretty?  A simple reminder of what is important.  Our amazing friends, Doug and Lexy sent this thoughtful and lovely map to us.  (If you and I are Facebook friends, you will have seen my reposts of Doug’s updates from Ukraine.)  We have walked some twisty paths with these guys and somehow they are managing to walk this one with us even from so far away.

Because life and conversation can’t always be about cancer, Dave and I have been purposeful in finding other good things to talk about.  The first idea we had was to read the same book which led to some interesting discussions.  (We read This is Where I Leave You by Jonathan Tropper which sounds like it could be cancer related but it’s definitely not.  It’s being made/has been made into a movie with Tina Fey and Jason Bateman.)  More recently we have watched the Mad Men series.  What a phenomenal show.  A few friends mentioned that they started to watch it but couldn’t get over the blatant sexism.  Early in the series that is true.  Of course it is set in the late 1950s and 1960s so that isn’t totally unexpected either.  I love how stylized the show is.  I love that there are hand over your mouth shocking moments.  And I love how the characters develop and evolve over time.  We have loved watching all six seasons and can’t wait for the final season to start on Sunday.  

Another MAJOR bit of sunshine has occurred over the last couple of days – both in the weather and in Dave.  He met with a counselor at the Life with Cancer Center on Tuesday night.  I intentionally didn’t ask him any questions as this is a time and experience for him.  He did mention that he liked the guy, and he thought it was helpful and he has another appointment set up for after Spring Break.  The counselor recommended a mediation class that he attended today.  But that isn’t even the big news.  For the last two days, Dave has reemerged into every day life.  Wednesday morning, after sleeping in, he went to work.  On his way home, he stopped at the Y and then took Parker to her oboe lesson.  He even picked up dinner afterwards.  Today he went into the doctor for lab work, went to work again, went to the meditation class, hit the Y, and then grilled out dinner.  It has made me so so hopeful.  He is definitely tired but I think in a good way.  

Saturday we head to LA to spend time with Dave’s brother and our niece and nephew.  (Unfortunately our sister in law will be out of town for most of our visit.)  We are looking forward to getting away and previously I was thinking we might not be able to do much while we are out there but with Dave’s recent activity, I am thinking anything is possible.

Sunshine and joy.



3 thoughts on “Joy and Pain, like Sunshine and Rain

  1. I am so happy for you, Robyn! It is amazing how special even little things can be. Keep on keepin’ on! You are something special! Nancy

  2. I am so happy for all of you. I am hoping that his future visits to Life With Cancer will be as helpful to him in letting the “PC”(pre-cancer) Dave shine through. We all just want him to be happy and as healthy as possible and to know he has a lot of support for the entire family. Have a wonder trip can,t wait to hear all about it. Hugs, Mom

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