Dave is in Chicago with his brother, dad and uncle. They cheered the Blackhawks on to victory this afternoon and will be sticking around town to see the next game on Wednesday. Meanwhile, back on the home front, I have taken this weekend to unbury us from the mountains of clutter that have been steadily amassing. Lots of little things have been put on the back burner as we deal with more pressing issues, or we have simply just blown them off to go and do something more fun. I am feeling a bit more on top of things – for the moment anyway.
With Dave’s latest medical news, I have been feeling a need to talk to the kids a little bit about where we are. There is a fine line between telling them enough so that they don’t think we are keeping things from them and telling them too much which could create unnecessary stress. Life with Cancer apparently has excellent resources for children and at some point we may take advantage of them. At the end of the day, though, no one knows our kids better than we do. Most times when Dave and I are out walking the dogs, we are discussing the kids – concerns, what to tell them, their futures. (We also spend a fair amount of time talking about how amazing they all are.) I have to trust that what we are saying and doing is what is right. Briefly, here is where they are in their understanding.
Sam (19 yrs.) – Dad is stepping away from work right now. He has gone through all the conventional treatments for colon cancer, and they are no longer working. We are looking at some clinical trials in Baltimore. The tumors are continuing to grow.
Grant (16 yrs.) – Dad is stepping away from work right now. The cancer is still growing and he is tired. We are going to Baltimore to see if they have a treatment that might help.
Parker (10 yrs.) – Dad still has cancer. He is taking a break from work. We are trying to find a treatment that will help him.
I don’t want to tell them that we are out of options until we are actually out of options. And I can’t imagine that there would ever be a day when I would give them a timeline. They can see that Dave is slowing down a little, but they also see that he is still full of life and ready for the next fun activity. Actually, I think that is what we all see.
Here’s what they knew in January –https://embracingtherollercoaster.wordpress.com/2014/01/14/the-truth-the-almost-whole-truth-and-nothing-but-the-truth
and here is where they were almost two years ago – https://embracingtherollercoaster.wordpress.com/2012/07/24/the-kids-are-all-right