We have been touched by all of the emails, texts, messages, calls. I have read every single one. I just might not have responded. There have been some common questions and I have answers. Kind of.
When is the funeral? Dave was very anti-funeral or memorial. He hated the idea of people standing around crying for him. He was very clear that he did not want one. Instead he wanted me to throw a big old party celebrating life. I am sure his vision included lots of people wearing orange, sharing funny stories and blasting Van Halen from the speakers. So, that is what we will do. I am thinking it will be sometime around when we should have been celebrating his 50th birthday – November 20th. I’ll give out details when I figure it all out.
Over the last few weeks, we would take the dogs out for a walk through the woods and talk about everything under the sun. This was such a gift that I didn’t fully appreciate until now. One afternoon, we talked about his wish to be cremated. I asked him where he would want his ashes scattered. He told me he hadn’t really thought about that, but he would get back to me. So, I beat myself up on Monday over the fact that we never got back to that discussion. Then I had a thought that I shared with the kids. They were on board so I talked to Dave’s mom and sister. We are having his ashes divided up. Each family member will take theirs and scatter them somewhere that holds meaning for them – maybe a place that they spent special time with Dave or brings back fun memories. The only thing that I ask is that they take a picture of the place and write down where they went and why they picked that spot. It is important for me that his kids know his history and have that as part of their fabric.
Can I make a donation somewhere in his name? We are in the process of figuring it out. Dave’s family and I agree that he would have loved to support Hayfield in some way. We are trying to figure out how to go about setting that up. Again, I will definitely let you know when I have the details.
PS There has been a fair amount of media coverage – NBC4 (local TV), The Washington Post (print and online), WTOP (local radio). He was one of a kind that man.
One more added today –