Two years ago, I was holding Dave’s hand in the hospital during the most terrifying hours of my life. Logically I knew he was leaving us soon. I prayed that he would not suffer and that he would be at peace. I watched in disbelief as his breathing slowed and then eventually stopped. It all seemed so unreal.
Tonight, as with many nights, I go between thinking back to that time and reflecting on what he brought to our lives. Dave and I always said we were opposites. Raisinets and Goobers. Ketchup and Mustard. He liked the limelight of karaoke and being on stage. Being in the spotlight makes my voice shake and my stomach hurt. He was impulsive, and I tend to over think things. I like to think that we were a good balance for each other. I am the person I am today because of him.
His influence was widespread. From young tennis players he coached to students he taught to adults he led. But I don’t think there is a greater example of his influence than through our kids. They are the people they are today because of him. By way of example, I share two memories – one older and one recent.
The first is 5 year old Parker belting out a tune from Avenue Q. “AVENUE Q is great for teenagers because it’s about real life. It may not be appropriate for young children because AVENUE Q addresses issues like sex, drinking, and surfing the web for porn.”
The second image speaks for itself. This is Grant before prom with a friend’s mom.
We miss his unique brand of fun. We laugh about things he used to do and say. Most of all, we honor him through our successes and joy. We miss you, babe. I can’t believe it has been so long since I’ve heard your voice and seen your smile, but when I close my eyes I can see you still.